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Our 3-Point Plan to Change your Life in 2013

Posted by admin on December 19, 2012

Making a New Year's Resolution? Great! Now try this for a profound change!

This is not about making the usual promises to yourself. If you really want to give up chocolate or intend to go to the gym more often then I am fully confident that you will.  It’s the ‘really wanting’ with your head, heart and guts that will make the difference here and put you in the 46 per cent who make it through the first six months without relapsing. Go for it! do-reflect-experiential-learning-model.jpg

This is rather different. It is our simple plan to make changes that will improve they way you live, work and interact with friends, colleagues and significant others. I have found it breathtakingly effective!

1.  Reflect!

(a) Each day take time to tune in ask yourself:

  • What have I done well today?
  • How do I feel about that?
  • Which of my skills did I use to effect this positive outcome?
  • How can I use those skills in other areas of my work or life                                                                                                           

(b) Now ask yourself:

  • What could I have done better today?”
  • How do I feel about that?
  • What was it that triggered my behaviour?
  • How could I react differently in future to achieve a better outcome?

2. Learn!

As a result of reflecting, each day you will learn something about yourself or others. Make a note of that learning.  For example: ‘If I criticise a member of my team in front of others it puts the whole team in a difficult place’.  Or, ‘If I show appreciation to my partner for what he/she DOES do, rather than complain about what he DOESN’T do, I notice I am more likely to get my own needs met.

3. Change!

The cliché that if we keep on doing the same old thing we keep getting the same old results is true. We do this because we are sure that our way is right and that if we keep saying it the other person will suddenly see the light and comply.  Alas, the chances are that they are digging their heels in and hardening their own attitude just as we are hardening ours. Being right isn’t always that important!

So, the next time you are irritated by someone at work or at home, find a different way to respond and see if you get a different reaction – one that will change the way you think, the way they think, and the way you live or work together.

A very Happy Festive Season and a Wonderful 2013, from all the team at Impronta.

 

Edwina Biucchi, edwina.biucchi@impronta.co.uk